This whole religion business still
seems farfetched. Am I a fool for keeping on doing it?
This has to be one of the questions
at the back of the mind of many believers these days. We are surrounded by
people who seem to be doing just fine without religion. Maybe they are
"spiritual but not religious." Maybe they are just plain atheist.
Whatever they are, they must think people like me are fools. People like me
must be deluded, willfully self-deceived, hopelessly benighted.
Are we?
I have grown up and lived my life
cradled in a Roman Catholic world. When I am in that world, all is well. But I
have to venture out of that world, partly because I feel called to do that.
"Called." Who is calling?
Prayer
One of the central behaviors of
religious people is prayer. What is prayer?
Prayer is communicating with the
divine, the sacred, the ineffable (a big word which means you can't talk about
something). Like all other human communication, using language as a form of
involvement with another person is to engage with a partly self-made image of
that person. We do not know other people completely. We know only the stories that
we create out of our experience with those people, or stories about them that have
been given to us by other people.
There have been more than one individual
who was perceived by people as saintly, but who turned out to be an emotional
and sexual abuser. Marcial Maciel founded a religious order called the
Legionaries of Christ, was praised and considered saintly by no less than Pope
John Paul II, but was found to be a serial abuser of young men. Jean Vanier
founded an ecumenical religious movement dedicated to living with and caring
for people with disabilities called "L'Arche," but was found also to
have sexually abused six women over the course of thirty-five years.
We do not know the complete story of
the people closest to us. Are we deceived when we experience contact with God,
however we perceive God?
Our critics fault us for being too
willing to accept stories that may not be true. They may go further and claim
that the stories we accept are not true. What is the evidence they provide for
that claim?
I assume, without consulting such
critics, that the evidence they give is that people can be deceived, just as
the people around the two individuals I described were deceived. But, I reply,
does the fact that some of us can be deceived by some people imply that billions
of us are deceived about God?
Years ago I read a little of Sigmund
Freud and about Sigmund Freud. His attitude toward religious believers seemed
to me to be an accusation of infantilism. He was saying to religious people,
"Grow up. We all have a tendency to want to go back to the womb, where
everything was warm and comfortable. That is what you religious people want to
do. Be a man. Face up to the hard, cold reality." (I don't imagine him
saying "Be a woman." My own misogyny shows through here.)
The advice "Grow up" is a
moral injunction. What is the grounding for such an injunction?
I suspect it is the experience of
most of us that as we grow up, there are times when we would like to go back to
days when we were cradled in some way. But we have learned from experience that
it is not good for us to try to carry out such a desire. Freud's accusation is
a move in a game of one-up-manship. He is more mature than we are. He can see
the world as it is. We are infantile.
Community
Our U.S. culture says that it is
better to stand alone than to go along with the crowd. Our culture assumes that
the crowd is likely to be less enlightened than the individual. The result is
that we move away from any involvement that would tie us closely to a
particular group of people.
Religions, by definition (the word
comes from a Latin word meaning "to bind"), begin with the statement
that it is better to go along with a crowd than to stand alone. So it is not
surprising that U.S. culture is not friendly to religion. Our critics say that
it is because we are deceived and too anxious to go back to the womb that we
practice religion. We can counter that it is because we accept the value that
it is better to go along with others than to stand alone that we practice
religion.
There is increasing evidence that, at
all phases of the human life cycle, it is better to be in relationship with
other people than to be alone.
So, to answer the question that I
began this essay with, am I a fool? I answer: I am living in a counter-culture.
I do not accept the culture's value that it is better to be alone than to be
involved with other people. The empirical evidence of social science tells me
that too much individualism is not healthy.
I still admit that I could be wrong.
I can be deceived as much as the followers of Marcial Maciel and Jean Vanier
were. But the presence of some deceivers does not prove that everyone is a
deceiver.
Faith is to know something even when
you cannot prove that the something is true. It is better to live with faith
than to reject any story that you cannot prove true. We all depend on
testimony--we trust some people to tell us the truth when we can't prove it by
ourselves.
The prevalence of "fake
news" made more visible by social media has highlighted the failure of our
schools to help us think critically about the trustworthiness of our
information sources. We have been sold the ideas that "STEM" courses
(Science, Technology, Engineering, and Mathematics) should replace traditional
courses in history, literature, and philosophy, and that the primary goal of a
college education is to get you a good job.
If I believe somebody who tells me
that I should study engineering instead of history, why is it foolish of me to believe
somebody who tells me what God is like?